Public service announcement

I'm posting this so the youth of today know what to expect in 20 years time.

You currently look like this:
In 20 years time, to that generation, you will look like this:Yes, you will be completely, completely uncool. Uncool beyond all reason. But that's okay. Because by then, hopefully, people your age will have stopped caring about whether people are cool, and be more interested in their actions, and what they've achieved.

I had an interesting conversation with a friend the other week, about his attitudes towards women. He said he felt entitled to some respect from women due to his successful job and achievements in life. By making a success of himself, he felt like that should go some way towards gaining a woman's respect/attraction. This guy has previously chosen to pursue his career over relationships, including one long relationship that ended due to them having to be in different cities due to his job and her study. He made that choice, believing it would pay off in the long run, with success in his career and with women.

So far it hasn't. Instead, the women he knows have been attracted to guys who are "cool" or "sensitive" or "have nice hair". While he is very funny and clearly intelligent, that is less important than "coolness" to the women he knows. It frustrates him.

I tend to think we're not at the age where achievements count for much among our peers. A friend might be rich and successful, but if he's a tool, who cares??? I expect that will change for us in the next 10 years or so. Success and money become more important. Should you stay close to the bloke you hate, just because his contract is so important to your business?? Do you tolerate an obnoxious couple because your daughters are friends and they are offering her the chance to gain life experiences traveling that you could never have offered her? Do you invite the boring woman and her boring husband to dinner to "catch up", because they are an important part of your church or community group?

As our motivations for life change - from enjoying fun and learning about the world, to building a family and establishing ourselves financially - so the way we judge other people will change. And this is what I'm getting at. The "cool" guy with the "nice hair" at 25 had better turn that into something worthwhile in the next decade. Otherwise, the successful guy, with the friendly personality and dependable career, will get all the benefits.



Not necessarily with women though. No, there's no accounting for a woman's taste.